My blog has been changed to make it more appealing for those who have New England ancestors and want to see the area through photos. Things I’ll include are typical white New England churches, libraries showing their genealogical collection, historical societies, cemeteries, war memorials, in general, anything to do with history.

For four years I’ve blogged mostly about my personal genealogy in New England (Connecticut, Massachusetts, Vermont, and New Hampshire), New York, New Jersey, Michigan, Illinois, Wyoming, and the Eastern Townships of Quebec, Canada. I still will, can’t forget my own roots.

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Sunday, September 30, 2012

Family, Genealogy and High School gatherings are similar



Family gatherings and genealogy conferences are similar to high school reunions. At least I think so. I haven’t been to a family gathering in many years, due to my small family and distance, and I've gone to genealogy conferences, but I just attended my first high school reunion. Hold on….my 50th.

There is only reason I went, my girl-friend wanted to go, and really wanted me to attend. I was hesitate, because I hardly knew anybody, first 50 years ago was a very long time, who would remember me, and why should they? I was only a student there for my senior year, a total of 9 months. All their friendships had been formed, many since first grade, and since I moved around afterwards, including living in Virginia for 20 years, I only had one good friend. Anyway, we went.

Chelmsford. MA is only a few miles away, and we were at the Country Club within minutes. With a pit in my stomach, and scared to death, I thought of  Gini Webb’s (genealogy friend) personal message to me regarding her recent reunion. I can only think, this is what it is like for all those people attending a genealogy conference, seminar/lecture or a family reunion, when you don’t know anybody. It is awful.

When we walked in, I saw some men, none looked familiar, nor their names. Fortunately, the women came over to great us, all knew who I was! I knew all their names, but could only place a few of the faces. They were so friendly, and very surprised to learn that I had only attended that one year. Later, I couldn't believe the nice time I had; it would have been my loss if I had stayed home. So, don’t stay home. Just go to whatever event you want to go to. People won’t bite.

The saddest thing was the reading of names of classmates who have passed away, quite a few recently. It was a real wake-up call. The best thing was, Judi, at my table mentioned her daughter-in-law was into genealogy. Within seconds, I whipped out my genealogy business card and gave it to her. Then, when I got home, I discovered one of my class-mates wrote on her information sheet that her hobby is genealogy…yes, I will be writing her.

I recently read my yearbook information again, this being the page where the staff wrote something about me. It said, "Barb--neat, tidy and well-groomed --  manner reserved and well poised -- Lexington's loss and Chelmsford's gain” The Class Will said, “leaves her friendly manner to” ___(withheld), one of the popular girls of the Jr. class. I think after 7-8 months of knowing me, they had me down pat. So when I saw a few of the ladies and told them how much that meant to me, then thanked them. Again, please go to your reunion, your old friends or family members may not be around the next time there is one, enjoy them now.

6 comments:

Carol said...

I am so happy you went! AND had a great time!

WAHHOOOO!!

imagespast said...

I was recently invited to a 30 year school reunion, but chickened out of it. Looking at the Facebook photos, it seems everyone had a ball and got on great. I should have gone, after all. Some former pupils had travelled back to Scotland from Australia, Africa and the US just to be there, and I'm 10 miles away. Oh, the shame of it... :-) Jo

Barbara Poole said...

Thanks Carol, and yes I went..I'm so proud of myself, I'm almost bragging.

Jo, I'm so sorry to hear this, but do know you will make the next one. I always think of you as being so confident (look at your job), your attractive as heck and used to have a purple car. What else do you need to impress the former class-mates? I will tell them You Rock!

Gini said...

I'm so glad you went Barbara and had a good time! I know that feeling but now, I'm glad I went and wouldn't have missed it for the world. So many in our class has passed too . . . they were very much with us. I had such a great time seeing so many I had gone to school with since grade school all the way thru high school. There is a bond there that even time cannot break!It's genealogy . . . it's about our lives and priceless memories!

Cynthia Shenette said...

I'm glad you went, too! I love your yearbook information. Some things just don't change... ;)

Barbara Poole said...

Thanks Gini and Cindy. Gini, thanks for your personal input before and after I went, and Cindy, since we've met several times, yes, you would know what I'm like...I haven't changed (ha, maybe I should improve on a few things).